Monday, March 29, 2010
Voices that need to be heard
To say the least the article about the "Hook Up" culture in pigs in training needs a little less thought. It is not important to waste countless time trying to stop a culture that has been created by a our media culture. Obviously these upper class boys and girls no what they are doing. In the chapter, evidence in the book showed that abstinence has not been taught right or even at all. Lying to young teens only fuels the fire even more. As an experienced person on sexuality letting those girls do what they want until they figure out the actual consequences is necessary. I can not believe that girls these days are selling themselves short when guys do not care what they wear. It is also shocking to hear that these girls like doing oral sex for nothing. After reading I could not hear Levy's solutions or why this is even a interesting topic of discussion. What is more important is helping young girls like Emile Morgan who have been branded for life because people of our country have not posed consequences for men who partake in such sexual violence. Reading that article only made me sick. Reading Levy only made me more mad because obviously no one is teaching these girls what real life is. How can our current patriarchal society allow this to happen. This is devastating that not only do women this for men, but for themselves. I am at a lost for words with this right now. What I can say is that women should find something like Rebeca Walker did. They should find something that gives them security. They should also do it to protect themselves from the harsh country. From reading these articles nothing can protect women except themselves. This a harsh reality but, what more can you ask for when you live in one of the most embarrassing hypocrisy in the world. Not everyone is created equal according to the articles we have just read.
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in Brownmillers article I found it most interesting to think about how we think of rapist and who the actual perpetrators are. We are taught to not not walk alone at night, to always be aware and to stay away from sketchy areas and men that look suspicious however it is not the suspicious men that are majority of who does this. it is generally someone familiar and someone that you know so why are we learning all these things about how to protect ourselves from what is not the biggest problem. I also thought it was interesting to think about the Raunch culture and rape and how much of an affect that may have. Whether it is an issue for feminism or not i think that it is completely unfair to blame a women who has been raped just because she wasnt wearing enough clothes or was acting too sexual. i think that by saying that you are implying that women constantly need to censor themselves and while also saying that men are savages and have no control over themselves. which is an unfair assumtion and expectation on both ends. however i think that there is gray area in here because when a girl CHOOSES to go back to a mans room, takes her clothes off and begins to have sex and then says stop while laughing and isnt assertive enough then you cant always expect a man to know what is going on in your head, especially when alchol is involved. on the same note our society needs to allow women to not be afraid to voice there opinions and they shouldnt be afraid to be judged, be considered a prude or a tease or a bitch for standing up for herself. i know several women who did not want to have sex once they got back to someones place but thought if they said no at that point then no man would want to have sex with them again. Much of this is not an individuals problem on the end of men or women, it is society that causes rape and it is the lack of communication when it comes to sex and sexual relationships that further emulate these issues
ReplyDeleteBoth Amanda and Charles bring up very good points and in my opinion, the sum of all these issues can often come back to one thing: lack of communication, or insufficient communication. These teen girls that Levy is describing are being communicated the message through the media and the "success" they find when they do these promiscuous things, they are gaining something. That is so far from the truth because what they are doing isn't *for* them, it's not healthy or even about their own bodies and pleasure. It's all about other people--the boys they are trying to impress, and they girls they are trying to become "superior" to. This isn't helped by the fact that Sex-Ed is often as far from educational as you can get. Many teens are taught, "Don't have sex" and that's it. This complete break in communication makes it so these teens don't understand what it is that they are participating in until it's too late. And like Amanda mentioned, sometimes women don't know how to communicate "yes" or "no" because they're not taught that it's okay to do that. All they know is the pressure their partner is putting on them and the pressures of society. Neither is good motivation to make a decision, especially about something like sex. There is a fear that by telling teens too much, they'll be too comfortable and think it's okay to have sex, but I think what we have now is worse, because if you can't understand what you're getting into, you're more likely not to understand the consequences. That is dangerous.
ReplyDeleteI think Charles brings up a good point about personal responsibility versus community responsibility and how both are necessary in order to put a stop to the raunch culture. Girls should be taught to value themselves more, but also should be allowed to make mistakes to learn. Yet, this problem doesn't just involve girls. Boys, too, need to be involved in the solution and take responsibility for the problem.
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